If you know me, you understand that I like to talk. However, there are times when I am with a group of younger people, I feel it is better to keep my mouth shut. Mainly because I feel the others are not interested in what I have to say.
This is not a negative statement about younger people, but rather just common sense. Most of their conversations center around young children, school events, problems with teenagers and things they do together as friends. I could chime in about what I did when my kids were younger, but usually it is dismissed as not relevant. They may not be interested in my naps, short walks, phone visits with friends or my trips to the casino.
When I was their age (and here I go again) we talked about the same things. My friends and I would try to include our parents or other older relatives. After those conversations we swore that we would never talk about our ailments, medications and doctor appointments. Well guess what, when I get together with people my age, that is what we talk about.
Now when I am with younger people, I keep my mouth shut about my aches and pains and do not share any medical info. unless asked. Sometimes I have to interrupt my husband to do the same. These things are a major part of our life and something we think others might want to hear, but they probably don’t need to know it.
People in my generation have lived through many things. We have gone through the baby years, teenage trials, college times, marriages, new homes, lost jobs, illnesses, grief and much more. After experiencing these things, we naturally feel we have enough knowledge to advise others about how to get through it. That knowledge is not always asked for, much less appreciated. I guess we have reached another stage where no one wants to hear what we went through.
Then there is the next generation, people the age of my grandchildren. I can share lots of stories from my past and they listen. They ask questions about what I did and learned and believe my advice. This is so refreshing and extremely fun. It makes me feel like someone still values my opinion and my stories. It also encourages me that my legacy will live on through what I share with them. It is like a bridge going over one generation to another.
I have found that there is something more important than speaking when you are with a mixed group. I just love to be there and be included. Even if I have to sit back and listen, it is fun to hear new things and learn about other people. I am allowed to ask an occasional question just so I can understand who they are talking about. Then when I get together with my age group, I might have something to share that is not related to health issues.